Even though society is trying really hard to erase the difference between men and women, to obtain equality, and that it’s really easy to fall into old stereotypes and assumptions about men and women; the truth is that when it comes to body language there are indeed differences between the genders. This doesn’t mean that one is “better” or “worse” than the other, it just means they have different tendencies and characteristics.
Why do you need to know this
It’s pretty simple really, having a greater awareness and understanding of the differences can help a great deal in preventing interpretation errors of body language that could result in conflicts and misunderstandings.
Hence you can become a better leader, sales person, therapist, coach, entrepreneur, friend, spouse, etc.
2 main differences reside in the sending and receiving of messages (or cues)
- Receiving messages – Women tend to be better at receiving body language messages, especially when it comes to noticing inconsistencies between this one and verbal language.
- Sending messages – Men tend to be less skilled at using subtle body language to influence communication without seeming to be doing so at all.
Science has shown that there is actually a physical reason for such differences. For example, women process messages using up to 16 different parts of their brain at once, while men use about six or 7 different parts of their brain to do so. That’s probably why they don’t pick up on flirtatious cues from women or a totally disinterested client.
Of course, one can work at becoming better at receiving and sending messages, but first thing to learn in this field is to be respectful and non judgmental and really start to be aware of how you send, receive and interpret messages and compare that to scientifical research.
As always in this field of study, the starting point in getting to understand someone’s body language is getting to know the characteristics of that person.
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