First impressions can make or break any relationship! We get an idea of whether a person is trustworthy or not within 30 seconds. Once this idea is made it becomes very difficult to undo. It is better to make a good impression at the first meeting.
Some say it is a very superficial way to do thing and that we should not judge a book by its cover. However, body language is not here to be used as prejudices such as ethnicity, tattoos, etc. It’s more than that. Our brain is conditioned to recognize certain traits and gestures, and extract the attitude of the other from those observations. Click To Tweet It’s not surprising, all animals work this way – yes, wither you accept it or not we are still part of the animal kingdom. We are still governed by the same biological rules that control our actions, our reactions and our body language.
So to make a good first impression, you need at least a combination of these four things:
- Your clothing: Wear clothing suitable to the occasion. What you wear says a lot about you. You must therefore pay attention to the message you convey with your clothes.
- Straighten your shoulders: Don’t hang them to your ears (like when you’re stressed), but don’t hunch over either. A nice relaxed upright position is optimal.
- Your gaze: Look people in the eye. Warning: It’s not a competition of who will blink first. That will be frowned upon! Avoid watching the ground, which would make you look guilty or give the impression you are looking for how to respond.
- Hand shake: The aim is to give a handshake that’s a proof that you are self-assured, not to break the fingers of the other or give the impression that they are shaking a rag. Try your best to keep your hand perpendicular to the ground. If too on top, you give the impression to dominate and too far below, you put yourself at a disadvantage.
You must try to remain as neutral as possible.
Of course, there are a host of other signals to consider, but you’ve got a good foundation here.
* Next week: Recognize the signals that betray a lie.
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